Post by cjm on Sept 21, 2014 15:43:55 GMT
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If you're going through midlife divorce -- or have gone through it -- you're not alone.
Midlife divorce is skyrocketing. And the reasons for that are many. Chiefly, most of us are looking at longer lifespans than our ancestors and we're not willing to live out those lives in complacent misery.
Many folks wait to divorce until their children are older or have already left the nest. Once those kids are gone or going, there are fewer and fewer reasons to stay. And, let's face it, we look and feel better than any midlifers in history. Thanks to constant messages about eating right and exercising, many of us look and feel ten years younger than we are. Toss in some Botox, and you've got a recipe for a whole generation of people who are fending off aging with a vengeance.
By the time you go through midlife divorce, you're a bona fide grown-up.
Chances are you've spent many years with your spouse -- perhaps almost your entire adult life. If you have children, you may also be facing the empty nest. Women may be experiencing the symptoms of menopause. By middle age, if you haven't already acknowledged it, you're a grown up and you're expected to behave like one. Midlife divorce challenges us to remain in grown-up mode even when it pushes us to feel like tantruming two-year-olds.
On the days when being your most mature self is a struggle, remember that you're creating a divorce legacy for yourself and your children. Here are the ways to move through midlife divorce as gracefully as possible and with your self-respect intact.
If you're going through midlife divorce -- or have gone through it -- you're not alone.
Midlife divorce is skyrocketing. And the reasons for that are many. Chiefly, most of us are looking at longer lifespans than our ancestors and we're not willing to live out those lives in complacent misery.
Many folks wait to divorce until their children are older or have already left the nest. Once those kids are gone or going, there are fewer and fewer reasons to stay. And, let's face it, we look and feel better than any midlifers in history. Thanks to constant messages about eating right and exercising, many of us look and feel ten years younger than we are. Toss in some Botox, and you've got a recipe for a whole generation of people who are fending off aging with a vengeance.
By the time you go through midlife divorce, you're a bona fide grown-up.
Chances are you've spent many years with your spouse -- perhaps almost your entire adult life. If you have children, you may also be facing the empty nest. Women may be experiencing the symptoms of menopause. By middle age, if you haven't already acknowledged it, you're a grown up and you're expected to behave like one. Midlife divorce challenges us to remain in grown-up mode even when it pushes us to feel like tantruming two-year-olds.
On the days when being your most mature self is a struggle, remember that you're creating a divorce legacy for yourself and your children. Here are the ways to move through midlife divorce as gracefully as possible and with your self-respect intact.
